We, like guys, want to be comfortable at night. Sometimes the lacy nighties are just too cold or skimpy to be comfortable. I know these days lots of girls like to wear only tee-shirts to bed. So talk to her about wearing these gowns on special nights, or date nights. Tell her how much you enjoy them and come to a compromise. A lot of times women don't understand how important little things are to a guy and you have to make that clear to her.
Talk to your wife. Since she's probably doing this for comfort you might want to go shopping together with her for a nightgown. She just might not like what you got her. It's also possible that she just doesn't like wearing or has little experience wearing any sort of lingerie. Maybe if she's cold put more blankets on since you picked a cold time of the year to give her flimsy sleepwear.
In the end I would just say take her shopping and have a good talk with her if it's that important for you. If you're concerned about the number of times you're making love make sure you discuss that with her. She might think that wearing racy nightwear will encourage sex when she just wants to get some sleep. If that's the can maybe make time for lovemaking an hour or so before going to bed.
Most of the time pajamas are a statement of not tonight but as long as she puts something slinky on and smell good for you on the nights you are togehter. Then, how much sex did you have before you got married, that could be another factor too, sometimes a woman doesn't want to just have sex to prove love. You can make love to her with words, just holding her and talking, making her a nice breakfast or volunteering to cook dinner for her. Start doing some things to make her fee sexy like buying her perfume, flowers, you know, some just because gifts. If none of that works then seek counseling to find out whats really on her mind.
Why don't you ask her- nicely- if she will wear them? Sometimes these kind of nightgowns look pretty...but they are rather uncomfortable! ( I tried to sleep on satin sheets once...because you see them in romantic movies, but it turned out I couldn't sleep because I felt cold ! )
Ultimately, it's her choice. You cannot make her wear something she dislikes or feels uncomfortable wearing.
Why don't you tell her that you get the "Not tonight, honey" message when she wears her pjs? Unless you talk to her, she has no way of knowing what is going through your mind!
You're reading too much into what she's wearing. It only means that that's what she's comfortable sleeping in. Maybe crank the heat and she'll go to bed without anything on. I say initiate something when she's in those pajamas or heck, initiate in the middle of the day to mix things up a bit!
I wear flannel (!) pj's, long pants and long sleeves, every night, because I'm really cold-natured. We have sex every day. Sometimes twice. The real question is, how can you get your wife enflamed, because it's not about the pajamas, dude.
she may actually be dressing for...*gasp* comfort!!
Tell her she's sexy in her Pj's and t-shirt...and go for it anyway! You don't have to wear something sexy to be sexy.... You don't have clothes on when you do the nasty anyways
Ask her to not get dressed for bed until after the sex has happened. Then she can wear whatever she wants. This will help you determine the reasons behind her choice of clothing.
steal the pajamas.
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